My Month of Comfort

As many of you know this has been an emotional month for me.  From losing my amazing brother-in-law to launching a Kickstarter campaign for a book on comfort. In ways these events are completely on the opposite ends of the spectrum and in ways they are very much linked.


You see this past month has just been a magnifying glass on life. On the highs and lows, the celebrations and sad good byes we all live through.  It’s highlighted for me how some things we can get right and somethings just go terribly wrong. Like posting a picture of my brother-in-law on Facebook before asking my sister. Something I teach not to do and yet I did! 

And throughout it all, what gets us through?  You know the answer to this question. It’s deep connections with our friends and family, and for me my faith.  It’s the laughter and the tears remembering a dear man so loved with family and friends at our side or the prayers from those who couldn’t be there.  It’s my sister saying my FB mishap will make a good story for my book or my business partners sharing virtual hugs as we watched our support grow. 

It’s all about the people and those deep connections we have. Simple as that. There is no app, new technology, exotic vacation or shopping spree that will give us the comfort and support we need from each other.


Pausing to look around to see those who are struggling is one of the key teaching points in my new book. So, a little over a year ago I decided to practice what I preach.  I started opening my eyes to those who seemed like they could use some love and comfort, and I began creating and texting comfort images to them each morning. One to one. Never for the world to see on social media. Every time I hear of someone struggling, I add them to the list. It started with a small group and has grown to over 100 people today. Some days I just send an image, other days I add a thought or a question. 


And this is what I am learning more and more: comfort is the great human kindness multiplier.  Whatever comfort I give, I get it back. In a very big way. These friends who I have encouraged this past year were the ones doubling the comfort and support back to me this month. Many of these were distant acquaintances that have become dear friends.


You see life is a circle and so is comfort. I have found that by focusing on others when they need a friend, I don’t have to focus on myself very much at all.  Because those friends are there for me when I need them. Helping me get through whatever I need to sort through.

And I am you. 

I think it’s a safe bet to say that in your own sphere you have 100 acquaintances who could use some love and comfort. Not saying you need to find 100. But maybe you find 2 or 3 or 5 or 10. And you just reach out to them. Again and again and again. And I’m betting that what you will learn is this: When you help those people, you won’t need to look very far for what you need in your own life. Along with your other friends and family, they will be all you need to get you through.  

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting me through this last month.

Comfort on my friends, comfort on…


Jen Marr